Setting Boundaries at Work and Home

Boundaries is a big subject for many people. Whether it is setting standards for a child or a new relationship, they can be tough.  Most of our lives are based on a certain amount of boundaries. What we can say, what we can do, how we are supposed to think. Whether a person thinks boundaries are good or bad definitely depends on their perception of how far they are willing to allow their borders to be crossed.

A passive person may have a problem setting boundaries at work or even at home. Conflict avoidance is part of their personality trait, but pushed into a corner far enough, they may go way beyond what some view as an appropriate or normal behavior. The assertive person may overstep their boundaries many times over, but stay in what society views as the norm when it looks at behavior thresholds. It's all in the eye of the person who is viewing the action and their values.

With that said, It is perfectly appropriate to set boundaries in both your work and home environment. If you're not comfortable with something, voice it, change it, let it be known. If your child is talking back to you, correct the behavior. If your significant other is not showing you what you feel is appropriate attention let him know. If he is showing someone else inappropriate attention, don't let it go. It will bother you and change your attitude without the people around you knowing why. At least if you acknowledge something is wrong it can be addressed. If you don't like something, you can always change it. 

If it's work that needs boundaries set please set them up. I have found that speaking up can save your license, if you have one in place. When work is stressing you out to the point you can't sleep or rest for thinking about it, you have a problem.  If you're uncomfortable doing something, let your work know. If they value you, they will listen. If not, maybe it's time to find a new fit. I was not always a nurse. I worked as a waitress and a cotton spinner before going to school for nursing. It's never too late to have a new career.

WAYS TO START THE CONVERSATION

I HAVE A CONCERN

I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THIS

I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THE WAY YOUR TALKING TO ME

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